I just want to start by welcoming you! If you are reading this then I'm guessing you're looking for info and experience from someone who has 'been there and done that.' Of course, our own experiences are unique to us and we are left with different things and emotions to work through - I absolutely understand!
I empower with women who have divorced, separated or gone through a breakup with transforming their mindset and self-worth to be able to start the next chapter of their lives with confidence and ease.
My ex-husband left me when I was very nearly 32, over 5 years ago now and we have two boys together, who at the time were 3 and 8. We were together for 12 years and married for 8. I felt it to so quick, from him telling me he wasn't happy to him actually leaving, it was just a matter of weeks.
I was stunned. It didn't make sense. I felt so lost, our goals to aspire to, gone. Hearing the words 'I'm just not in love with you anymore.'
Oh. My. God. That's it. That's the moment from which you start your new journey. It was scary but also exciting at times. There was so much to think about - the boys, finding support, work, time, even down to the becoming solely responsible for putting the bin out!
I took for granted he'd always be there. We were married after all. Looking back, I almost felt entitled - 'how dare he leave me?' 'I made vows to stick with you through the crap, why aren't you?!'
I was lucky. I had a fantastically supportive family and friends. I started dating again (stories to follow!) after a few months and I went on to have two subsequent relationships that didn't work out.
Why didn't they? It must have been me? Why is it I have never been the one to do the 'dumping?' Over time, my experiences only reinforced my belief that I wasn't worthy or deserved of a healthy and loving relationship or that I had very boundaries and men could trample over them anyway so what was point of having them?
I'm sure you are wondering what happened next and yes, I have been in my relationship for the last 3 years! I have learnt a lot, laughed a lot, cried a lot but I have learnt to love myself more than anything.
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